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We're All Raised to be Addicts, but What Can We do About It?

We're All Raised to be Addicts, but What Can We do About It?

“Addiction is a symptom. It's the symptom of a need to run away from something. If we need to run away from the symptom of the cure, then all we've done is go full circle. It's the vicious circle of avoidance, which is perhaps the biggest plague of modern society.

We have so many different means of running away from pain or unpleasantness at our disposal, and very efficient means — purified sugar, chemicalized drugs, instant entertainment, easy sex — how can we not be ever and constantly tempted by one escape or the other? And when the escape becomes ineffective, then how tempting it is to escape from the escape!

This, I feel, is how we learn to live in our society. We learn to stay busy, to develop hobbies — to be constantly on the go, and we praise those who keep a busy schedule. We call them popular or cultured. But ultimately, if there's a need to constantly be busy and run away from aloneness, what culture is that but one of avoidance? Burn-outs might just be the result of failing to stop running — whatever it is we're running to or fro — and depression might just be a symptom of failing to sit with oneself and simply listen.“

What is Love? A Diary of a Lost Little Boy...

What is Love? A Diary of a Lost Little Boy...

“Once I got a little older, they told me to say I love you. They told me to say it to my mom, to my granddad, and to my little cousin. They told me I had to say it even though I wasn’t their mother and I didn’t really find them beautiful or strong or valiant. They told me I had to, otherwise they would feel bad - and I didn’t want to make them feel bad - I didn’t want to be a bad person.“