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Leggo My Ego! — Our Infinite Obsession With Ego

Leggo My Ego! — Our Infinite Obsession With Ego

“Ego dissolution is a thing a lot of people get totally obsessed about. Everyone talks about it as if it’s the holy grail of spiritual achievement. Spiritual enlightenment, in all its glory, is touted as passing directly through the death of the ego — the freeing of one from the simple suffering of this life as an individual constantly fighting for assertion.

But what happens if we’re to actually dissolve the ego? What happens if we’re to truly lose our sense of self?

If the ego disappears, then the animal instincts and the social conditioning will take over. We’ll become wild animals chained by the shame and guilt inherent to the moralistic programmings we all inherit from our beloved ancestors. But wait — animality, shame, guilt — aren’t those the things we’re trying to fix through spiritual pursuits? Aren’t these what spiritual liberation is all about?”

Is Meditation Safe?

Is Meditation Safe?

“Meditation is a spiritual practice used to open ourselves to the true nature of reality. It’s in sorts a scientific process of introspection, set with an intention of looking at the world in a manner as objective as possible — free of judgments, free of the mind which would judge and categorize anything and everything.

Meditation is not about feeling calm and enlightened — although it can bring about these two experiences as very welcomed side-effects. But if one chooses to practice meditation, in a serious and profound manner as would be the case in a week-long Vipassana or Zen retreat, with the sole intention of relaxing as in a glorified form of vacation — then one may have a bad surprise.“

We're All Raised to be Addicts, but What Can We do About It?

We're All Raised to be Addicts, but What Can We do About It?

“Addiction is a symptom. It's the symptom of a need to run away from something. If we need to run away from the symptom of the cure, then all we've done is go full circle. It's the vicious circle of avoidance, which is perhaps the biggest plague of modern society.

We have so many different means of running away from pain or unpleasantness at our disposal, and very efficient means — purified sugar, chemicalized drugs, instant entertainment, easy sex — how can we not be ever and constantly tempted by one escape or the other? And when the escape becomes ineffective, then how tempting it is to escape from the escape!

This, I feel, is how we learn to live in our society. We learn to stay busy, to develop hobbies — to be constantly on the go, and we praise those who keep a busy schedule. We call them popular or cultured. But ultimately, if there's a need to constantly be busy and run away from aloneness, what culture is that but one of avoidance? Burn-outs might just be the result of failing to stop running — whatever it is we're running to or fro — and depression might just be a symptom of failing to sit with oneself and simply listen.“

What is Love? A Diary of a Lost Little Boy...

What is Love? A Diary of a Lost Little Boy...

“Once I got a little older, they told me to say I love you. They told me to say it to my mom, to my granddad, and to my little cousin. They told me I had to say it even though I wasn’t their mother and I didn’t really find them beautiful or strong or valiant. They told me I had to, otherwise they would feel bad - and I didn’t want to make them feel bad - I didn’t want to be a bad person.“