“Forget about success being attached to goals. Forget about success being attached to value. True and meaningful success is to be found in the magic of being. It is the offspring of the freedom I grant myself in deciding where I will be taking the next step in this life of mine.”
“We are taught to treat some emotions as positive and others as negative, yet from the point of view of your deeper self there is only positive — for emotions are the harbinger of self-love.
No, there are no negative emotions. The only potential problem comes from resisting or ignoring the beautiful messages contained within these emotions. Should we resist the flow, should we impede the fluidity of our emotional energy, then frustration sets in. This frustration is what ultimately leads to the really and truly dark places we’re generally so afraid of: anxiety, depression, and anger.”
“Meditation is a spiritual practice used to open ourselves to the true nature of reality. It’s in sorts a scientific process of introspection, set with an intention of looking at the world in a manner as objective as possible — free of judgments, free of the mind which would judge and categorize anything and everything.
Meditation is not about feeling calm and enlightened — although it can bring about these two experiences as very welcomed side-effects. But if one chooses to practice meditation, in a serious and profound manner as would be the case in a week-long Vipassana or Zen retreat, with the sole intention of relaxing as in a glorified form of vacation — then one may have a bad surprise.“
“Your best friend, your most faithful life companion, the only one who will always stand by your side, is you. How will you choose to treat yourself today? Will you choose to listen — and I mean really listen and aspire not to criticise or belittle the voices within?
Those voices within might be saying all sorts of crazy things — they might dream of flying high in the sky or spreading magic through the universe. Those are not mere childish fantasies — they are the longings of your soul, and they deserve their voice.”
“Addiction is a symptom. It's the symptom of a need to run away from something. If we need to run away from the symptom of the cure, then all we've done is go full circle. It's the vicious circle of avoidance, which is perhaps the biggest plague of modern society.
We have so many different means of running away from pain or unpleasantness at our disposal, and very efficient means — purified sugar, chemicalized drugs, instant entertainment, easy sex — how can we not be ever and constantly tempted by one escape or the other? And when the escape becomes ineffective, then how tempting it is to escape from the escape!
This, I feel, is how we learn to live in our society. We learn to stay busy, to develop hobbies — to be constantly on the go, and we praise those who keep a busy schedule. We call them popular or cultured. But ultimately, if there's a need to constantly be busy and run away from aloneness, what culture is that but one of avoidance? Burn-outs might just be the result of failing to stop running — whatever it is we're running to or fro — and depression might just be a symptom of failing to sit with oneself and simply listen.“
“Self-love is the label I give to a deep and meaningful understanding of who we are. It’s acceptance and allowance of the truths, longings, and desires that live within us. And it includes all of them, with no discrimination — regardless of liking or preference, for judgment and selection are ultimately the domain of the ego. Self-love is never about judgment, it’s always about allowance and acceptance — even allowance and acceptance of the judgments themselves, should they be manifested. Self-love accepts the ego for what it is, yet ego-love constantly endeavours to repress the self. Which seems more desirable in the end? Who seems to be playing a fair game?”
“Once we peel away the layers of the identity onion through contemplative witnessing meditation, we are left with nothing — as whatever we are, the observer, is the one thing which cannot be observed. We become faced with an indescribable void: the true nature of I — and if I say void, it is not because there is nothing there, but rather that there is nothing there that the mind can see or describe. Whatever exists there cannot be described using thoughts, words, concepts, or ideas. It can only be known through experience.”
“The notion of winner in the game of life is deeply attached to the role that’s been assigned to us. Achievement - in the form of social popularity, monetary gain, or educational success - is another one of those completely artificial constructs. It begs to ask ourselves: what do we really want out of life?”